Stress in relationships

 Marriage and kids are usually closely tidied by others. They both have effects on how people act and treat one another. These things redefine our lives. They can teach us many lessons and put strains on the bounds we had made before marriage or family. As strain is put upon people, it causes them to change how they feel about things. Sometimes they become angry or try to separate themselves from the problems. Each person acts definitely on how stress affects them. In this blog, I'm going to talk about simple things that cause stress in a relationship that more people need to note and talk about with their spouses as they try to work together.

The first thing that I have seen that causes stress among couples through marriage is communication. When people don't plan together, they wonder why the other person is doing something they weren't expecting for the family and may get upset about it. Secondly, I have noticed that family traditions can cause anger and disagreement among couples. We are all used to doing things one way for most of our lives. We sometimes find it hard to deal with a new way of doing things. Third, kids in general are stressful and couples may not always know how many they want or will have. Lastly is planning. We like to know where our lives are going and there are lots of bums on the road. When couples are trying to go in two different directions, they may grow to hate the other, so they need to communicate their plans.

People love to communicate. We have created so many forms of TV, cell phones, and the internet. We use these things to know what is going on with those around us, so communication is how we can work with people. So couples must learn how to communicate with each other and do it in a way that they can trust that they can come to the other with their problems and get what they expect from the other. Each person when they talk about an issue expects different outcomes. Some just want someone they can talk to, and others want help with the issue, and suggestions, not the solution to the issue. Couples need to know what the other wishes to hear or not hear to find out that you need to have a good form of communication.

Next, is having traditions. Traditions people love and hate. They allow us to celebrate things and feel like we have a personal family culture, but it's always hard to combine two family cultures. Couples have to be willing to try to work out ways to fit them together without losing the feelings they have for the traditions and maybe even make new ones.

Third, it is one of the joys of life and one of the most painful things for people is having kids. They are another life brought into this world, and they change how a couple's life is. They focus more on the kids than their partner or focus on working for a living and the wife is the only one to raise the kids. Couples need to work out a way that the kids are raised by both of them and food is put on the table. Kids are part of families. They make them stronger if the couple works together to teach and raise them. They also shouldn't take away time for the couple to show affection for each other.

Lastly, plans. A couple needs to plan out things and know what the other person's goals are for life. When people give up on their goals for someone else, they may regret it and hold anger or resentment toward them, which is hurtful to a healthy relationship. Couples that both have goals and are able to work for them and still raise a family are ones that in general are happier. They know they don't have to give up on what they want for love and that their love will help them to reach their goals in life.

These are just some things we need to watch out for in our relationship and talk about to know how the other is feeling. Because when we just hold in our feelings it causes stress and can lead us into depression or fits of anger about small and simple things. When we aren't addressing what is actually causing problems, so be willing to talk to people you are in a relationship with, even if it is family. Some friends or family some of these affect them too, so go and talk to those around you.