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Mixed Families

  This week is a hard one to talk about for two reasons. One, it's not something that is brought up very often in conversation but is common and second, I don't have much experience with it. What I'm talking about is mixed families or two families that have become one. We typically run into families like this but may not know or realize it unless it is brought up. Families like this can seem as normal as any other family, so this shows families can be made up of any group of people as long as they are willing to care for each other. With these types of families, there are common issues that parents of kids in this situation will have to deal with and that is what this week's blog post is about. So one of the ones that I have seen is very commonly joint custody and how discipline is dealt with between the two living arrangements. Next is how kids see their parents, then lastly is how kids born after remarriage see the kids from before. These all affect the life of both p

Being A Parent is Hard

Parenting is one of the most rewarding things people can do in their life. It's also one of the most challenging things that you can deal with. In life, we are used to taking care of one body and one person trying to survive day by day. Sometimes we excel at that and other times it just feels like the world is falling apart. So when we bring another life into this world, it's not like a zebra where after only a few hours they are up walking and traveling with the pack. It takes months, even years, for them to get to a point where they can understand the concept of going to new places. Parenting is a hard thing, and it is never the same for anyone, but there are a few things that can help deal with the pressure of being a parent.  The things that I have seen in my life as I have watched my parents, older siblings, and ants and uncles raise their kids are simple and can help make raising a kid a little less stressful. The first thing is something that my uncles and aunt do a lot

How Money changes lifes

 Money is a lot of things and can change someone's life in no time if they somehow gain millions or lose it all in some lousy insistence. Money is a vital part of our culture. We all need it to live, so understand how it is best for a family to obtain a living to support themselves. As a couple, a discussion should be made on how an income should be brought home. A plan of how the money will be used or shared by the couple and what they want and need, and lastly, how to make their lives meaningful, complete with the income they bring. It is comen nowadays to see a family where both parents go out and make money for the family. Sometimes this is necessary and other times they are doing this to have more spending power. In many ways, it seems logical that the more money comes in, the more you can do with it. The better your life will be. There are also consequences of having both parents out of the home, and it can even affect the income. I lived in a home where my mother was a stay-

Having a Boring Conversation?

  There are two people at a table. One is just talking the other's ear off about different things in their lives. Meanwhile, the other person is just sitting there just letting them. Then for some reason, the first seems to freak out. Then the other responses angrily back, trying to defend themselves, and it just exploded out until neither one is happy with the other. What do you think happened? Why are they now angry at each other? Why did communication break down? Well, there are many reasons that it ended the way it did. One could have been the first person asked the other a question and just got an Ok sure answer from them, or they rolled their eyes out of boredom. For whatever reason, the second one communicated something and the first felt angered by it. When the second was confronted, the second person decided to defend themselves, and it escalated from there. We are people that love communication, and we always will, but if we aren't careful with our communication it

Riptides of Stress

  Life is like a river ride. Sometimes it passes us by quickly, other times it passes peacefully and can let us enjoy the good in life, but other times it hits the rapids and can pull us under. The world as a whole has gone through a tough rapid that has pulled many of us under and still has a grasp on others. As people work their way to get out of this riptide, new ways of thinking need to be prepared to deal with all the things that come with finding a way onto the next section of the river. This rapid was a pandemic. It hit hard and fast. In years to come, people will look back at the pandemic and wonder how we made it through or wonder why it happened. We are dealing with the backlash of it now and all the pain and confusion it brings. Things have changed; we now can work from home and online schooling has expanded and many other social structures have changed. During times of change, it is normal for stress to come, and it is a natural response to change. Overcoming stress is nece

what's a successful relationship

  Relationships are a complicated subject and seem to change for each couple. So when someone asks about what is a healthy relationship, you will get many answers to that question. Some base it on how successful the couple is, others say it is how much fun they have together, and lastly, is how intimate they are with each other. I feel that each of these things should be judged divinely at different stages of a relationship. This means that both members should have a say in what's best for their lives. People see the photos and the vacations, and how fancy a gift may be for your significant other, but is that a true way to look at what success is for a relationship? In my opinion, successful relationships are ones where you can see how much they want the other to grow and reach the goals they set. A couple that is working together to reach for their dreams is always happier than one that is just having fun with each other. This is because once the hard times come, they will come. T

Stress in relationships

  Marriage and kids are usually closely tidied by others. They both have effects on how people act and treat one another. These things redefine our lives. They can teach us many lessons and put strains on the bounds we had made before marriage or family. As strain is put upon people, it causes them to change how they feel about things. Sometimes they become angry or try to separate themselves from the problems. Each person acts definitely on how stress affects them. In this blog, I'm going to talk about simple things that cause stress in a relationship that more people need to note and talk about with their spouses as they try to work together. The first thing that I have seen that causes stress among couples through marriage is communication. When people don't plan together, they wonder why the other person is doing something they weren't expecting for the family and may get upset about it. Secondly, I have noticed that family traditions can cause anger and disagreement am